Pricey Annie: My spouse and I’ve been married for over 15 years. I’ve a excessive metabolism, whereas she is taken into account overweight. However she wears it nicely. After having youngsters through cesarean part, her abdomen has no muscle tissues left to carry it collectively.
To me, she is gorgeous, in and out. I really feel that she struggles along with her weight and physique picture however doesn’t wish to admit it.
I’ve executed the husband factor and tried to be constructive about it, however I need her to reside her finest life. In flip, I don’t know learn how to strategy the topic.
There have been transient intervals in her life when she has turned to exercising and consuming higher. When that occurs, I’ll train along with her, and I all the time attempt to be encouraging. I simply don’t know the place to go from right here. — Quietly Involved
Pricey Quietly Involved: Being overweight has all forms of well being points related to it, so it’s comprehensible that you really want the girl you like to be as wholesome as potential. You talked about that you’ve a excessive metabolism. Ask your self: Does this imply that you simply eat junk meals and don’t train and but keep trim? If that’s the case, the very best strategy is to start out with your self by taking a look at your consuming and exercising habits.
Possibly you possibly can suggest well being and health as a joint venture, simply as you do throughout these instances when your spouse is motivated to eat healthily. You would possibly contemplate seeing a nutritionist collectively. A great one will advise you each to concentrate on good well being greater than a quantity on the dimensions. The truth that you see your spouse as lovely in and out is the very best place to begin ever for a joint venture resembling this.
Pricey Annie: I’ve been married for nearly 42 years now, and I believed our marriage was nice. My husband trusted me, and I trusted him.
However 5 years in the past, I used to be shocked to be taught he had been having completely different affairs ever since we had been married. We’re each in our 60s.
I came upon after I got here again from my brother’s funeral that one thing had occurred with a lady I knew way back.
I used to be busy with my household and never paying a lot consideration, however then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I came upon that my husband had been with this girl for 20 years proper beneath my nostril. Everybody within the space knew, together with my pals. Nobody mentioned something.
I used to be so shocked, and I cried day-after-day as a result of I used to be so busy doing two jobs. I requested him about it, and he mentioned it was for less than two years. However then he went on the offensive. He claimed that I used to be the one dishonest. He accused me of getting an affair with a neighbor. He made this declare as a result of the neighbor comes residence simply earlier than me or after me. I’ve by no means even spoken to this neighbor. Now my husband will get very nasty and insults me on a regular basis. — Betrayed
Pricey Betrayed: Speak about having the rug pulled out from beneath you. What he did to you is horrible. Please don’t let him flip this round on you, pretending as when you did one thing unsuitable. Search marriage counseling instantly, and if he doesn’t wish to go, then it is likely to be time to maneuver on. Attempt to be a part of a help group for ladies who’ve been betrayed such as you had been.
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